Change is synonymous with change, and, in general, it is accompanied by nerves, stress, and uncertainty. This change of environment does not only affect adults. Children often experience it with even more suffering. It is a mistake to think that children adapt quickly to sudden changes. A change of house shakes his stability and routine. Parents must give them confidence and support to successfully overcome this transition.
Although each child has a different personality, usually for the children of the house, a move involves a 360 degree turn in their lives and can generate powerlessness because they were not involved in making the decision. As a result, there may be some tension at home.
What worries him most, surely, is getting away from his circle of friends. The issue is aggravated if the move involves a change of school or city for your child. For him, it means to start again.
When you hear the news, your behavior at home will surely change. You can show your most rebellious or sensitive side to attract attention. Maybe I’ll take your word away, be absent, do not look in your face, stop eating and you may even have insomnia problems. You may also choose another way of emotional blackmail: mourn inconsolably and beg that you do not make the move.
With this panorama, how can you face the setbacks that accompany the change of house and make this experience more positive for your child? In Big T Moving & Delivery we have been helping hundreds of people and families in their movings for more than 50 years, so today we want to help you and give you some advice on how to deal with a move with children.
Communicate the decision as soon as possible
When you consider moving, try the ground with your child as soon as possible to see their reaction. Explain the reasons for and advantages of changing homes.
Once you make the decision, talk to him with total sincerity. Do not overlook issues that he may worry about. Tell him the bad part, but focus more on making him see the advantages, depending on his age, which he will experience in his life, but, beware, do not create false expectations.
Listen to him and get on his skin
Surely, your son refuses the idea of moving on many occasions. Although this depends on your age, sit down with him and let him explain himself. Show him that you understand. If he tells you that he is sorry to leave, he admits that it also generates fear and uncertainty, but at the same time it is an exciting step that you are going to make together and that many good things are coming.
Encourage him to participate in the move
One very common mistake in moving with children is that parents keep them out of the process and they feel displaced because they have not been asked for an opinion or informed of the details. That has to be changed.
Once you have explained the reasons, try to have the child participate in the move with small gestures: keep your toys in boxes, pack books, organize clothes, choose the bed and decoration for your new room, help choose the color of the walls, make a list of things to buy … no matter how stressful a move is, try not to transmit overwhelm. Share with him these tasks with a big smile to convey optimism and enthusiasm.
Show your new environment progressively
It is recommended that weeks before the move, you take it to know your future home and the neighborhood in which the new home is located. Show him the places that may interest you, such as parks, cinemas or nearby swimming pools, for example.
In the new house, explain how the distribution will be: the living room, the kitchen, the bathroom and, most importantly, your new room. If you can allow yourself to choose your future room, do it.
Do not lose touch with your old environment
When you have moved, try to ensure that your child does not radically lose sight of his usual friends and relatives he used to see frequently. Invite your friends to come home, play together in your new room or enjoy a walk in the neighborhood.
Do it the same with the family he usually sees every day. You have to make him feel yes, he has changed his home, but he has not broken his emotional ties.
In the event that they can not come home because of remoteness, change the tables and take them to their old surroundings from time to time or encourage a meeting in another place.
Help him make new friends
Besides worrying about losing touch with your surroundings, the idea of making new friends can be overwhelming for the child, so try to support him. One recommendation is that the first days in the new house organize at home a snack with the new classmates, in the event that there is a change of school or the children who live in the new neighborhood.
It is also advisable that you sign up for an extracurricular class or workshop, a good one to develop your concerns while making new friends.
Although a priori it may not seem like it, a move can have beneficial effects for children in the long term. It is a process that favors communication between parents and children, and. even if they are not aware, it means facing together an intense change, full of stressful but also exciting situations.
If you have children, are thinking about moving house or are already in the process, put into practice these tips that will help you to help your child face the move. And if you are still looking for a company to help you with the movement of your furniture and furnishings, remember that Big T Movers has a professional service of residential and commercial moving, in addition to storage to make your life easier. We will wait for you!